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Five ways we act when we have a crush

Friday, 19 March 2021

 

Deciding what to wear on a date is always a struggle


It’s been a while, but the dissertation has been submitted so I have a little more time to do other things now whilst I try to find a job. That might be it’s own little adventure on here though, a nice little documentary as I try to find my way through my twenties in a pandemic. That’s not the point of today’s post.

We’ve all had crushes, even if the word crush does make me cringe ever so slightly now at the ripe age of 22. Crush just makes me think of mizz magazine with the cringe columns and tales of woe as you fart in front of the boy you like, supposedly ruining all chances you have of ever dating him. Nevertheless they still persist, and what better way to discuss them than in the teen magazine format. A list post of things I, or maybe even we, have done when we’ve had crushes in the past.

 

1.Become a spy with internet skills MI6 could dream to have

Whether you met them on tinder or in a class, the internet is a best friend when it comes to dating. I’ve never added someone on facebook when I was interested in them, but it’s always good to get a recon mission in. It’s the only time I’ve considered my cyber skills good enough to actually become a spy, finding out if they photographs well and if we’ve got any mutual friends. I feel like this is something everyone does, or maybe everyone I know at least…

2. Play it cool…or play it cool as well as 10 year old me plays netball

Playing it cool has never been a strong suit in any situation for me. I mean this with utmost honesty, I cannot play it cool in any capacity. We all do it though, play off the feelings as if they’re nothing so the person doesn’t find out before you tell them even if you do actually tell them. Act like you feel nothing that’s not platonic for the other person, they think you’re cool and disinterested which both helps if nothing comes of it but also slows down any actual result from the crush. You could always do what I do though, trip over your own feet in an effort to move around them, this is something I do normally and without a crush. Tripping over your words is also a big thing here, getting out sentences is hard at the best of time…let alone when you feel like every word should matter

 

3. Oh you like sport? So do I!

Now this is a classic move, one I feel that everyone has definitely done at some point in their lives. Pretending to like a small thing they love just to be that bit more compatible, it’s only a small white lie to support their team or favourite film as long as you don’t stop supporting your own. At aged nine I played star wars in the playground to spend time with the guy I liked, despite knowing nothing about the films beyond light sabres. (Even then I was annoyed because apparently girls don’t have those since they’re not jedi, I had to settle for an imaginary gun instead. Safe to say this non-relationship did not happen from this rocky start)

4. Girl talk, do they like me?

Ah messenger, the play ground, a sleep over? Wherever the location, the conversation is about them. At least in the early stages. It’s always interesting to discuss how you approach the crush, if they like you, the odds of it working. How beautiful they are in that unobtainable way which means they’d of course never be interested. Even in a game of M.A.S.H. That’s planning out your whole life though. Praying you get to live in a mansion instead of the shed and that if you do luckily land on your crush as THE ONE, you don’t end up landing on a high number for children. We all know at aged 10 that 30 odd children is good for no one especially if you have a bike instead of a car. A turbulent time, but sometimes life seemed so much simpler when it was planned by the Gods of MASH or a paper fortune teller.

 



How I feel about dating (Source)


5. Shake it off..

Most of the time a crush comes to nothing, or at least it does in my case. A mixture of anxiety over their rejection and inability to commit usually contributes to having to do this. As much as we fantasise and think about how it could be, usually you just have to get over it. Sometimes they have a partner; or in my case you match with them on tinder, they see you in the library on a Sunday sans make up in essay hell so unmatch you since you’re really not looking at your best. I can confidently say this person was not worth my time and good to get over, but it was hard to face at first…Almost like they’d seen my face then saw it as reason to leave… that’s their loss though!

What are some of the ways you’ve behaved when facing a possible partner in the past?

 

2020: Looking back on my goals and making them more suited to 2021

Saturday, 23 January 2021
Unsplash -Isaac Smith


I’ve seen many posts looking over the last year and what everyone’s achieved. 2020 was a mixed bag in how the new decade didn’t exactly start how we imagined, a far cry from the roaring parties of our dreams. Getting through the year was good enough in my eyes, but I decided to have a look over the postI made a year a go with a few overall goals for the year ahead. It feels almost Bridget Jones-esque to set some goals at the beginning of the year in my mind, but that’s only because I have an internal monologue narrating this post as I write. I always feel this way when the posts are of more of a personal nature than a fun general topic, but sometimes these are the posts that matter personally since they can be looked over easily.  My thoughts on the goal mentality and process have been mixed in terms of how they make me feel but I do think some rough ideas are always good to aim towards. Most of the things I have outlined here could be completed in and out of the house which I think will be a theme going into the new year with a great sense of trepidation.

Career: Achieve a grade I’m proud of in my masters

I would say I achieved this, I didn’t fail or only just scrape a pass which was the main thing. Graduating wasn’t the experience I thought it’d be since at the start I wanted to make a power suit in a bright colour to don on a January day with doc martens. Instead, a hat was made by my dad out of a cap and card balanced precariously on my head as I posed jokingly on the stairs. Laughs were had and I donated blood later that that, an unconventional end to what could only be described as an unconventional year of studying. Now I know I don’t really want to do a PhD anytime soon, so the goal is just to find something that makes me happy in a way? I know that a level of enjoyment is definitely key to getting the most out of a job, especially when it comes to maintaining good mental health.

New goal: Find employment and continue learning new skills through this platform. 



Two of my recent instagram captions inspired by A discovery of Witches
because I utterly adore this book series.


Hobbies and lifestyle: Blog continuously


Well with the masters and lockdown, my creativity ran dry pretty early on last year. With trying to maintain focus on my work, the focus on my blog took a backseat. I made a banana bread, but it didn’t make the gram, I went on walks but not in nice outfits. I did make it to 20 posts which is less than I imagined at the start, but 20 posts in 2020 has a kind of ring to it I guess? Losing motivation is always forgivable, but failing at this one does annoy me a bit. I am determined to stick to it this year though, especially since I don’t have university to blame for my lacking inspiration. That and I’ve got a lot more content planned that involves sewing since I have more space, a machine and a dressmaking mannequin to display anything I make if I don’t fancy wearing it myself. I just want to make fun creative content on here and on my Instagram that’s more me and less for the sake of being topics I think people will want to see. I just want to have fun with writing and creating.

New goal: Once again to be consistent with my blogging and also to enjoy sewing or creating sewing content

Self: Take a break and read more

I adore books, I love to read all the words and immerse myself in the pages of content people create. Alas, I did not read enough. I set myself a goal of reading 20 books, thinking it was achievable and not at all too ambitious after seeing the aims of other book bloggers. I didn’t even record all the books I read so I’m not entirely sure of how many I actually achieved but probably somewhere in the teens. Once again then, my aim is to read 20 books and not to get too distracted by animal crossing… 

New goal: Read more, sew more and spend less time looking at screens          


Make more ethical choices


This is one I was fairly successful in, with the pandemic I shopped a lot less as things weren’t open and I just didn’t have the want to scroll through ASOS. I switched to the ordinary skincare so now my skincare routine is cruelty free and by not really going anywhere last year my general impact on the environment has been pretty good. This year I want to make more of a difference by changing habits and supporting more causes. If 2020 taught us anything, it’s that we’re stronger together even when we are all apart. Thinking about this makes me want to go out and support more causes as well as making some more ethical decisions at home.

Goal: Educate and act better towards the environment (both the earth and the people who inhabit it)


What are some of the things you are looking towards doing this year?



Five places to find free sewing resources

Monday, 18 January 2021

Source: Unsplash


I’ve mentioned sewing a few times on here, but not too often. It’s a hobby I really got into last year, though not so much in lockdown as you would probably expect. Last year I had university things to do, so this is the year, the lockdown I have decided to use to bring my sewing to the next level. One of the problems with sewing though, is like any hobby the costs can quickly add up even after you’ve bought some of the necessary equipment the extras can quickly add up. With material, patterns and the wishes to purchase everything available in haberdasheries to make the most beautiful garments, a sewer can quickly find themselves out of pocket. In light of this, today I thought I would share some of the best places to find free sewing resources.


Puffin embroidery from Hawthorn Handmade


Embroidery hoop patterns

Now embroidery is something I’m still learning as I think it could really add a little cottagecore aesthetic to homemade pieces, plus embroidery designs really make the most beautiful pieces of home d├ęcor. If you’re just starting out then I really recommend getting an embroidery kit since they come with the hoop and threads included as well as the design printed on the material. Searching for patterns though, I came across Jessica’s blog post with her own embroiderydesigns, all you need to do is just print off the pattern and get to work! If you have a little money to spare though I have found some great kits on Hawthorn Handmade. If you are feeling a little more political, then I recommend checking out the amazing kits on hellotreacle, both embroidery and cross stitch. 


mood fabric pattern



Mood Fabrics

Sadly, due to customs charges the fabrics on moodfabrics are kind of pricey for those of us that live in the UK. That doesn’t stop me from singing the praises of this site though, especially since they are one of the best resources for free dressmaking patterns. From cosplay to cloaks, there are a wealth of designs to choose from! All you need to do is input your email into the design you wish and a PDF is sent across straight away, all the designs even come with a handy guide of how to tape the papers together once you print all the pieces of the pattern out. The patterns all range in difficulty so you can pick and choose what you fancy trying, coming with a handy tutorial on the site as well as a guide of what sorts of fabrics are best suited to your project.

Pinterest

Pinterest is a wealth of everything, sometimes a pain to navigate and also awkward to increase traffic on. (At least in my experience) For sewing though, the site is fantastic. There are countless resources on the site, both free and paid for so it depends on what your after. I’ve created a board dedicated to sewing, both patterns and tricks to improve my garments. It’s also brilliant for looking at older patterns that may not necessarily be available since they’re vintage, you can study the images available to possibly draft your own patterns. On my board I’ve also created a smaller sub-board (no idea if this is their technical names) too where I have started collecting my sewing resources that are specifically free or blog posts created by others that could build my own skills.

The Victoria and Albert museum

The V and A museum is one of my favourite museums to visit when I’m in the city, their cast collection is phenomenal as is their fashion gallery. Second only to the costume museum in Bath, the V and A is the place to go if you want to lose yourself looking at fashion through time. This is why I was so excited to find sewing patterns inspired by a few pieces in their own collection on the make and do section of their site. Browsing the designs has me itching to use my sewing machine to make the Mary Quant inspired dress and to learn to knit so I can try to do the 1940s knitting patterns justice.

Youtube

Nowadays youtube is the place for everything, honestly I think there are enough niches to definitely fill a lifetime of viewing content. Sewing youtube is my new obsession, to both switch off and to add to my own skillset. There are plenty of youtubers I could recommend for both entertainment and teaching, so much so they could be their own blog post. (Let me know if this is something you’d be interested in reading). For teaching though, I can promise you even the most niche sewing technique will have a video on it on the platform. Sometimes I find the video format is the best to learn as they can be the easiest to follow as you watch the person assembling the garment, just simply search whatever you are struggling with to find the free tutorials to discover on the site.


Sustainable fashion in Lockdown: Three ways to dress sustainably whilst staying at home

Wednesday, 6 January 2021



I’ve spoken previously about trying to be more environmentally conscious when shopping for clothes, and my own journey to a more ethical wardrobe this year. That post was before the pandemic and lockdown though so I thought I’d look at what’s changed and how we can make more ethical choices when buying over lockdown as we obviously can’t leave the house at the moment.


What has changed since my last post?

As I previously said, my last sustainable fashion post was written before the pandemic and lockdown meaning that now all non-essential shops are closed. Therefore, most charity shops are out of the equation unless you go on the company’s general online site. I know from researching this post that Oxfam have an online clothing store and the British Heart foundation also have an ebay shop so it is possible to peruse some of the goods, but the prices are a little higher than average since they are the more quality pieces you’d find in higher end charity shops. Not only that, but there are some brands who have previously described themselves to be more environmentally conscious that have been exposed to not care for workers as much as they care for the environment. The creator of reformation earlier this year was accused by many employees of racism in the blacklivesmatter protests back in June, Reformation has since apologised and made a large donation to the ACLU with the founder stepping down from her role as CEO. Moreover, other brands have been shown to be careless with those who make the garments, paying only enough to not be a sweatshop and leaving the workers in appalling conditions. These practices highlight the importance of transparency from the brands themselves, and how in the modern society we need to value the lives of the workers as much as the environmental impact of the resources used to make the cloth.


Other online charity shop retailers:

Barnados - Have a fantastic yoga selection of both vegan and non-vegan products

Fashion For change - A brilliant online boutique that specialises in high end donations, including a lot of designer goods

Sense - They have an excellent ebay shop

Thrift+ - A brilliant site that works to bring the online platform of charity shops, donating money to charity with every box of clothes that's donated. So far they have raised over £400,000 for various charities


How can I buy clothes more ethically with the shops shut?

 

It is so easy to buy any clothing these days, nearly every shop has an online store or at least an online presence. In the last lockdown, I saw ASOS hauls on most of my feeds and as convenient as the store is, it isn’t the kindest to the environment. Instead, I would suggest researching the brand you are buying from before you buy any new pieces for your wardrobe. It is obviously a little more time consuming than buying outright, but you can see where the clothing is coming from and the actual cost of the piece in relation to human lives and the environment. Two websites that are great resources for this are (BLANK BLANK) since they are updated constantly and explain the unethical practises of each store meaning you can make a calculated decision if you are unable to buy from ethical brands and want clothing that is not pre-loved. Obviously, this can take some time thought, and I am aware of the increased cost of more ethical clothing, and that it isn’t something afforded by all.


Ebay and depop

 

A haven of all things, ebay and depop are great for getting specific pieces you’re after and just as fun to browse as asos in my opinion. By purchasing from the sellers, you’re either supporting small businesses or just individuals. Yes, some of the clothing may not have the best origins but by purchasing second hand you’re not actively contributing to the supply and demand of the fashion industry. Buying pieces from these sites to is an excellent way to find good quality essentials that will last for a reduced price, obviously sometimes it is hard to work out sizing, but it is a great way if you can buy from here. I would always recommend sizing up on these sites, especially with coats since it means you can still layer up and wear jumpers to keep warm!

 

Make do and mend

 


Now this is probably not what you want to hear, but the old World War Two slogan does come in handy sometimes…. This would not count as a form of retail therapy at all, but sewing is a great way to maintain your wardrobe. Mend pieces if they’re broken, or even try your hand at creativity to revive old pieces that you just don’t wear anymore. Sometimes all you need is a button change and it just transforms a coat or a shirt, I know tortoiseshell buttons have been in for the past few seasons and these are easy to pick up in online haberdasheries. Mend rips, or just flip pieces to completely Just altering clothes as well is a brilliant way to make item yours, second hand or brand new, whether the alterations are completed to completely transform the garment or just make it better fitted to yourself.

I plan to do another post on some of my creations of thrift flipped clothing and alterations made from what I already have soon. I just think this is a great way to improve your sewing skills and create a wardrobe you truly love, plus shrinking my fashion carbon footprint is always a bonus. One of my aims this year is to be better to the world in general so this suits me perfectly, after all if we all start small, we can help the bigger picture. (Ultimately, it is the big companies and oil industries that need to change the most, though our changes can help too.)

I hope you’ve liked this post starting off 2020! I look forward to hearing about your sustainable swaps this lockdown if you decide to update your wardrobe!